Oh man. Just lovely. The trust there, the ask. I have a definite weakness for the submissive man who offers himself to me.
A naked man straddles the lap of a woman in her underwear as she leans in to kiss him.
This photo […] immediately struck me as beautiful. Most photos of lovers in this position have the woman in this man’s position. In this photo, the woman is cradling her lover delicately, protectively, and sensuously. I especially love that we can see her right hand on his back, and the way he is grasping her upper arm.
I often feel a sense of guardianship and protection over the men with whom I have any sort of relationship, but especially with my sexual partners, and I think this embodies that aspect of the dominant-submissive relationship. (Not that submissive men need protection, of course! Just a personal inclination!)
The position of the models is particularly arresting because it’s one in which, perhaps due to their genders, a brief glance can give you the wrong impression, whereas a closer look will reveal details painting a very different picture. For instance, without even diving into the power implications, the slight angle at which the man is leaning back, not forward, the fact that the woman is still wearing her bra, and the arrangement of her arms as though they are enveloping his body all indicate tenderness, not aggression. Wait…tenderness? In porn?
Many who spout sex-negativity eagerly lump all pornography together into one (censored) pile with outrageous claims like viewing pornography creates rapists, but the variability in reality refutes this conflation. Of course, far be it from anti-porn activists and “researchers” like Dr. Gail Dines, Founder and Board Director of Stop Porn Culture, to let mere reality stop their crusade.
Dines and her organization are convening in Boston on June 12th for an upsetting conference called Feminists Against Pornography (aka. FAP; seriously, “FAP”). Headlining at the conference is character assassin and University of Rhode Island Women’s Studies professor, Donna M. Hughes, a well-known right-wing wingnut most famous for her Coalition Against Pleasure and Health, responsible for delaying Megan Andelloux’s non-profit sex education Center from opening for half a year.
While I’m thrilled to see the Internet abuzz with people discussing the merits and demerits of pornography, I feel much of that discussion misses the point. Both Stop Porn Culture and the Feminists Against Pornography conference are red herrings. To borrow from Jessica Valenti, their tactics are part of a larger conservative move to woo women by appropriating feminist language. […C]onservatives are trying to sell anti-women policies shrouded in pro-women rhetoric.
Thankfully, June 12th is the same day as the sex-positive, free KinkForAll Washington DC 2 unconference. As developmental psychology post-grad and researcher Jason G. Goldman put it,I will suggest that given the ubiquity of pornographic content available to children and adults, and given the ease at which it can be acquired, and given the high amount of sexual content in mainstream media (e.g. primetime TV), the people who are meeting in Boston next week to denounce pornography might redirect their efforts at improving the quality of sex education in our schools.
A man strains against bonds as he lays naked on a padded table, while a casually dressed young woman holds his erect penis in one hand and a small plastic-looking tool between his legs with her other.
As others have mentioned, the most defining—and enjoyable—characteristic of this photograph is the woman’s attire: a blue, oversized “Abercrombie” sweater. His nakedness and frenetic energy is far more striking because of the contrast her nonchalant appearance provides. Couple this with the not merely unconcerned, but downright gleeful expression on her face and the strips of tape serving as a blindfold and gag on his face, and, well, I’m sold.
That being said, concluding that this man is necessarily in pain is a mistake. It’s more likely that she’s pleasuring him, not hurting him, because no matter its genre, the tired narrative in pornography is that men receive (physical) pleasure and women provide it—regardless of who’s touching who and how. What would, instead, be most compelling to me is if this scene was one in which an overabundance of sexual pleasure was itself the instrument of pain.
In so doing, and only thanks to the woman’s obvious blitheness, it could help redefine several porn “pleasure narratives” (if not its gender or power narratives). It would more clearly show pleasure’s true diversity, that joy is possible through pleasure, pain, or both, that both “receiving” and “giving” physical sensation can be pleasurable, and that the “giving” may be most satisfying for the “giver” when the act is performed on her terms. Therein lies the missing “last mile” of porn’s potential honesty.
As an aside, I’m pretty sure he’s not in pain because, what is that she’s holding, a toothbrush? (No, seriously, is it a toothbrush?)
I love this. I love that he’s properly tied down, and he’s in real pain, and he’s clenching his knees together but it won’t do him any good. I love that she’s wearing a fucking hoodie and she’s just delighted with herself. Where is all the femdom like this?
Last night she told me about this fantasy she had. I’m in a room with two other guys. One of them forces my head down to his cock and begins to fuck my mouth hard. The other kneels behind me and thrusts his cock into my ass. He spits on it first, but there’s no lube and it’s a big cock and it hurts me, but he doesn’t care. She told me more guys appear. Some of them come in my mouth and I’m forced to swallow, or they come on my face. Guys take turns to fuck my ass. One of them ties my balls very tight with a cord and pulls hard on it while his cock is in my ass. At the same time another twists my nipples cruelly, digging in his nails. Then they bring a girl in. She’s very pretty but they won’t let me fuck her, Instead, one guy fucks her in the ass and comes, and then makes me lick her ass clean as his semen oozes out.
I asked her if she is there watching while this is going on. She’s not sure. Probably not. She wants these men to hurt me, but she’s not sure she could watch while they do it.
I’m not gay. I don’t usually have fantasies about being gang-raped by a lot of men. But I find her fantasy very hot, because it’s what she wants for herself, this vision of me being abused. I think I would do anything if she really wanted it.
Very intimate and sexy.
I think this could only be improved if every boy had a flogger.